My goddess and I had an interesting conversation the other day. Obviously, our relationship is somewhat new, albeit tempered by the fact that we were good friends for years before we came together. I think this situation leads to the natural question “is this for real? What if you get bored of me?” It a fair query on both sides of the line of scrimmage. Since I can’t speak for Her, I will speak to what I can and answer as if She were asking me that.
I think that the stock answer here is a cop-out. It’s all too easy to say “bliss, bliss, I could never ever get bored of you Queen”, but those are just opinions with no facts to back them up. In fact, it’s my natural tendency as an INTP to grow very passionate about things and suddenly drop them like Wile E. Coyote off a cliff. It’s happened with many things in my life — jobs, games, hobbies. Now people are little bit different as once I’m friends with somebody I’m generally all in since I don’t make friends easily, I’m not that trusting. But still, it’s something that I am aware of and I would be lying if I didn’t say the concern has crossed my mind. Yet I feel relaxed for a few reasons.
First, of all, “bliss, bliss, I could never get bored of my goddess.” I know, a cliche. But I actually have empirical evidence to back it up. My previous relationship lasted more than 2 decades despite the fact that I didn’t really like being around her all that much and the sex was rock-bottom awful (and was had less than 50, probably less than 40 times in those decades. Not because it wasn’t offered but because it wasn’t wanted.). I mean, I seriously questioned why people cared so much about sex. I had trouble believing that anyone, anywhere had sex two days in a row. With my goddess, on the other hand, i can’t stop thinking about her and just want to be with her all the time. And the sex is—well, I’ll just say that I finally understand why people like fucking so much. So I don’t get bored of people that easily.
Secondly, I think submissive men are hardwired to be faithful. I reverence Her so much that I can’t even fathom thinking about another woman. And yes, I don’t think that’s proper grammar but I don’t care. I’m hardwired to be faithful. I have a hypothesis that the only way to lose a sub male is to neglect their needs. Of course, needs is a relative term that will be different for each sub. Some subs may have a need to be neglected, in which case neglect is, in fact, not neglect. Now the domme needs to know what the needs are to be able to meet them, but I feel most women know what gets a particular guy going. And they should be using it as much as possible.
Lastly, the power is in her hands. I was reading a great post on a blog that I think is so very wonderful: Almost Femdom Wife. The link to the actual post is https://almostfemdomwife.com/2019/07/02/the-benefits-of-a-femdom-marriage-a-post-from-mistress-scarlets-blog — it’s well worth reading and also points to another great blog, Mistress Scarlets. The entire post rings incredibly true, but no portion moreso than this one:
And the relationship intensity and intimacy and loyalty is as strong as can be. When those things the submissive do not enjoy are all over, they adore their dominant and sleep the most contented sleep, knowing they are helplessly in the power of another. In addition, the sex life does not fade away over the years. It remains as intense as it ever was; decade after decade after decade.
For me, my need is simple to explain: I need to be regularly reminded of the exchange and subsequent balance of power. It doesn’t have to be much but the more creative the more it brands it deep in my mind. It can be an action, a touch, a sentence, even a look. I’ll talk more about this in a later blog post.
Suffice it to say, I have a very firm conviction, given how well I know Her, that She’s stuck with me until She doesn’t want to be any more. Which will hopefully never, ever happen. At least I’m going to do my best to ensure it.
Ride or Die.